Private schools across India are literally extorting hard earned money of the parents forcing them to buy dresses, stationary and books from shops set up in schools or from private vendors with whom they have a tie up (obviously on huge commission basis). This is a common practice, rampant everywhere but conveniently ignored and given a blind eye by the concerned authorities.
In two independent houses, separated by a compound two people were living, in one a retired person and in the other a techie.
They had planted identical saplings on either sides of the compound. The techie used to give lot of water and manure to the plants.The retired, just a small quantity of water and little manure. The techies plant grew into lush green, leafy robust plant. The retired person's plant was a near normal but much luxuriant than his neighbour's.
One night there was a heavy rain with gusty wind. Next morning both came out to see the fate of the plants. To techie's surprise his plant had got uprooted where as his neighbor's was unharmed.
Techie asks the retired as why his plant was uprooted despite such a good care where as the neighbor had hardly cared.
The retired person's answer should be a lesson for all of us.
Look young man, you had supplied every thing a plant would need,in abundance and the plant did not have to go in search of it. Your roots did not have go down. I was supplying just enough to keep it alive. For the rest roots had to go down into the ground to fulfil it's needs. Since your roots were superficial the rain and wind could easily fell it. Since my roots were pretty deeply grounded they could withstand the onslaught of the nature.
The same applies to our children too.
(The blog writer is a Management Professional and operates a Manpower & Property Consultancy Firm. Besides, he is President of "Consumer Justice Council", Secretary of "SARATHI", Member of "Jan Manch", Holds "Palakatva of NMC", Is a Para Legal Volunteer, District Court Nagpur & Member of Family Welfare Committee formed under the directions of Hon. Supreme Court.)
Why do we have brakes in a Car?
The answer will blow your mind...
Someone asked, "Why do we have brakes in a car"?
Varied answers were received, like,
"To stop",
"To reduce speed",
"To avoid collision" etc.,
but the best answer was,
"To enable you to drive faster"
Give it a thought. It's true but seldom such smart out of box thinking is done, much less appreciated.
It's because of brakes that we can dare to accelerate, dare to go fast and reach destinations we desire.
At various points in life, we find our parents,teachers, mentors, friends and spouse etc. questioning your progress, direction or decision. We consider them as irritants or consider such inquiries as "brakes" to our ongoing work.
But, remember, it's because of such questions (read periodical brakes) that you have managed to reach where you are today. Without brakes, you could have skid, lost direction or gone astray or met with an unfortunate accident !!!.
Learn to appreciate the 'brakes' in your life.
Use them wisely....
Our inner Ego sometimes misjudges a Person....
Most of the time we judge people by their outer appearance, which can be misleading. And in this impression, we tend to treat people badly by thinking they can do nothing for us. Thus we tend to lose our potential good friends, employees or customers.
Remember...
In our Life, we seldom get people with whom we want to share & grow our thought process. But because of our inner EGO we miss them forever.
Who is your fallback!
People help you the way they know to help you. To help you to come out of stress, one friend will ask you to drink and another will ask you to meditate.
To overcome hurt, one friend will ask you to take revenge and get even, and another will ask you to forgive and get ahead with your life. ‘Who is your fallback’ makes all the difference. Duryodhana’s predicament, in his own words, was, “I know what is right but I am not able to indulge in it. I know what is wrong but I am not able to avoid it.” He needed a fallback. His fallback was his uncle Shakuni, and resultantly, Duryodhana moved from bad to worse.
Arjuna’s predicament was different. He was allowing his personal emotions to dominate his sense of duty, and hence wanted to escape from the responsibilities he had towards upholding righteousness. He needed a fallback. His fallback was Krishna, and resultantly, Arjuna was restored to his greatness.
Humans we are, at some point or the other, we all need a fallback. ‘Who is your fallback’ makes all the difference.
Choose Well..
Amid this attack on doctors... whether it should be condemned or not? Who is to be blamed? Public or Medical professionals?
While such attacks are in no way justified, I think it's a retrospection time for all. For public/patients: for obvious reasons, as attacks/violence of any kind is not at all acceptable. At the same time doctor's (not in general) as well as intellectual's need to introspect and give an afterthought as to why this is happening or why such kind of attacks have gain momentum in recent times? Is this the frustration/anguish/exploitation that people nowadays face/suffer in modern corporate hospital culture - gullible professionals having little or no empathy for patients/sufferers? Maybe because of such few, all fraternity face negative public opinion and outrage. Isn't it an alarming situation and high time that introspection needs to be done by one and all? I do not intend to be biased towards any particular faction..just want to bring forth what appears to me a reasonable, logical and valid point of deliberation....and of course the attackers should be strictly dealt with so that such incidences are never repeated.
Note: I have 7 medical professionals as my immediate family members & I am proud of their services as HONEST doctor's. I have been seeing many Doctor's including my father practising since last 45 odd years & the blind trust, respect & the high esteem with which they are looked upon. Patients definitely respect genuine medicos. I myself have great regards for many..but few black spots have corrupted the mind set and thinking process of all. Respect and blind faith has slowly started wanning. These are the real culprits. They need to be controlled lawfully..this will help the majority who do genuine practice and do not resort to malpractice.
(The blog writer is a Management Professional and operates a Manpower & Property Consultancy Firm. Besides he is President of "Consumer Justice Council", Secretary of "SARATHI", Member of "Jan Manch", Holds "Palakatva of NMC", Is a Para Legal Volunteer, District Court Nagpur & Member of Family Welfare Committee formed under the directions of Hon. Supreme Court to prevent misuse of 498A).
I remember growing up with many labels, like
'Weak in Math'
'Slow eater'
'Chatterbox'
'Non-stop nonsense'
'Attention seeker'
'Careless'
'Useless'
And one label that had almost become a self fulfilling prophecy, 'I'm unlucky, my stars are unlucky'
My parents unknowingly were labelling my behaviour and some where in the depth of my subconscious, I was retelling these stories to myself. Gradually these labels became my reality and my life was becoming a mess.
It took me 28 years to realise that I was unconsciously living with a label that's limiting me to live the life I desired.
But now as a parent I recognize the importance of seeing a child's behaviour as only a behaviour and ensuring not to attach a label to it.
So if your child takes a little more time to understand a concept, don't label 'Slow learner' maybe they'll take a little more time, but I'm sure once their foundation is strong, they'll grasp things more quickly.
If your child is not ready to share his toy, don't label 'selfish' maybe your child wants to ensure that his toy is going in careful hands.
If your child talks a lot, don't label 'too talkative' maybe he/she is a little more curious to explore their surroundings.
However your child behaves, as a parent you always have a choice to see the behaviour in an empowering way. Try to decode the purpose behind that behaviour and solve that purpose, the challenging behaviour will dissolve gradually.
Today I want you to pause and reflect on the labels you grew up with. Are they limiting you in anyway? Are you raising your children with any labels?
Compiled by the blog writer.
heda.amit@gmail.com
Always remember that the speed with which your reputation is talked about is faster than you can imagine. Wherever you are going, your reputation is already waiting there. In the era of social networking the speed has increased manifold. It is good and advantageous if your reputation is good but it is dangerous if your reputation is bad.
Build your goodwill and reputation; protect your name at all cost. Earlier it was easy to have gap between what you are and how people perceive you, but now people can’t be deceived. One can’t keep wearing fake mask for a long time. So better drop all your bad habits and character flaws. Do not compromise your values for the sake of short-term gains.
In long term, whatever wrong you are doing today will damage you manifold in future. Reputation is like a glass; once the crack is developed it is not easy to gain its original form again. It is not easy to build good reputation and certainly not possible to build it overnight. Promoting false name over night may be easy but building good reputation requires lifetime efforts.
Five Tips for building Reputation :
1.Honesty is the foundation for trust and trust is the foundation for goodwill.
2.Look for long-term benefits than short-term gains.
3.One bad work has power to destroy 99 good works.
4.Keep company of good people and leave company of bad people.
5.Be ready to pay any price to protect the name.
Thanks..
Regards,
C@ Amit Heda.
heda.amit@gmail.com
The above article has been compiled by the blog writer.
1. When entering the house greet your children with hugs and kisses. This should help develop their sense of love and mercy.
2. Be good to your neighbours and never backbite. Never speak ill of other drivers when on the road. Your children listen, absorb and emulate.
3. When calling your parents, encourage your children to speak to them. When visiting your parents take your children with you. The more they see you take care of your parents the more they will learn to take care of you.
4. Read to them a short story and even a scripture a day – it doesn't take much time, but very impactful in creating strong bonds and wonderful memories.
5. Comb your hair, clean your teeth and wear presentable cloths even if sitting at home and not going out for the day. They need to learn that being clean and tidy has nothing to do with going out!
6. Try not to blame or comment on every word or action they say or do. Learn to overlook and let go sometimes. This certainly builds their self-confidence.
7. Ask your children's permission before entering their rooms. Don't just knock and enter, but then wait for a verbal permission. They will learn to do the same when wanting to enter your room.
8. Apologize to your children if you made a mistake. Apologizing teaches them to be humble and polite.
9. Don't be sarcastic or make fun of their views or feelings, even if you "didn't mean it" and was "only joking". It really hurts.
10. Show respect to your children's privacy. Its important for their sense of value and self-esteem.
11. Don't expect that they will listen or understand the first time. Don't take it personally. But be patient and consistent.
12. Pray with them. Show them how to pray. Lead by example.
13. Most importantly: Give your time. Guide them personally. Keep an eye on what's trending (not necessarily fashion)..it may be cultural, educational, social.
Compilation and Contribution by the blogger.
Email: heda.amit@gmail.com
M: 7588630891.
